• cosmicrookie@lemmy.world
    link
    fedilink
    arrow-up
    25
    ·
    1 day ago

    That mostly applies to “young introverts”.

    Once you have this much white in your beard, you’ll have given up on friendships, and will have acquaintances. Good for small talk, occasional discussions, and the rare outing.

    My personal issue, at this point is, that I am having trouble figuring out how and who to bring to concerts. I don’t feel like going there alone, but don’t have acquaintances that i feel i can invite. I did once to a live recording of a podcast about some sports, but it was kind of awkward

    • grrgyle@slrpnk.net
      link
      fedilink
      arrow-up
      2
      ·
      20 hours ago

      I’m sure it depends on the introvert, but I have two really good friends. I find I can hang out with those friends basically without draining my social battery, so they’re my main goto for socializing.

      Everyone else takes effort.

      • cosmicrookie@lemmy.world
        link
        fedilink
        arrow-up
        3
        ·
        19 hours ago

        For me it takes effort to maintain friends. I’m very good at making them but I don’t really care for keeping them. I’d much rather be by myself

        The few people who accept this and done take it personally, are the ones who are closest to me. But it’s not close by any common means

        • grrgyle@slrpnk.net
          link
          fedilink
          arrow-up
          1
          ·
          6 hours ago

          That’s interesting and mostly relatable. After a few months of happy isolation during lockdowns, I realized that I do have some meagre needs for the good society of a friend from time to time.

          But yeah not a lot of people are OK with that sort of “out of sight out of mind” type friendship. The people who are you treat like gold, though. Or at least I do, because I actually need them.

    • slaneesh_is_right@lemmy.org
      link
      fedilink
      English
      arrow-up
      11
      ·
      1 day ago

      I learned that i really like to co to concerts by myself, which is something i could’ve never imagined 10 years ago.

        • dditty@lemmy.dbzer0.com
          link
          fedilink
          arrow-up
          1
          ·
          16 hours ago

          Im 31 but I’ve been going to concerts alone for many years at this point. I actually kinda prefer it now. Im just another face in the crowd, I don’t have to try and awkwardly talk to a friend over loud music, and I can just leave whenever I want, etc