I made a throwaway so as not to clutter my main. I’m a bit sad but he doesn’t want me to feel bad. He keeps me so he’s not lonely, but he doesn’t know whether or not he wants to break up and just strings me along, I guess. “I love you” one minute, “let’s break up” the next. My mom says I’m being played, IDK.
I don’t even know what we are because he keeps trying to walk out of the conversation and he doesn’t care about my interests or what I want. I’ve tried talking to him, he says it’s the way he is. Also, he gives me words of affirmation but apparently my brain says that’s not enough. I don’t know anymore. Just venting, ugh.
You realize that you too have a choice and say in this, right? It actually doesn’t even matter if he’s ‘playing’ you or just ignorant of his own feelings, it seems to me that you’re getting very little out of it aside from distress and confusion and hurt. If he doesn’t know, you should: Why are you staying with someone who isn’t even sure they want to be with you? It’s the actual bare minimum to ask. I’d argue that you’re already not dating if he’s sitting on the fence like this, and I hope he hurts his little balls about it.