I made a throwaway so as not to clutter my main. I’m a bit sad but he doesn’t want me to feel bad. He keeps me so he’s not lonely, but he doesn’t know whether or not he wants to break up and just strings me along, I guess. “I love you” one minute, “let’s break up” the next. My mom says I’m being played, IDK.
I don’t even know what we are because he keeps trying to walk out of the conversation and he doesn’t care about my interests or what I want. I’ve tried talking to him, he says it’s the way he is. Also, he gives me words of affirmation but apparently my brain says that’s not enough. I don’t know anymore. Just venting, ugh.
I think your brain is on to something. It’s not enough to just give affirmations; words need to be backed up by actions to have substance. Someone who is dismissive of your wants or interests doesn’t sound the slightest bit in love with you. You deserve a definitive answer on what he wants to be, and I think you need to force the issue. It’s selfish to put you through this sort of emotional toil if it’s genuinely just so he isn’t lonely. If he doesn’t want you to feel bad, he shouldn’t be putting you through this just to fill some attentional void.