I made a throwaway so as not to clutter my main. I’m a bit sad but he doesn’t want me to feel bad. He keeps me so he’s not lonely, but he doesn’t know whether or not he wants to break up and just strings me along, I guess. “I love you” one minute, “let’s break up” the next. My mom says I’m being played, IDK.
I don’t even know what we are because he keeps trying to walk out of the conversation and he doesn’t care about my interests or what I want. I’ve tried talking to him, he says it’s the way he is. Also, he gives me words of affirmation but apparently my brain says that’s not enough. I don’t know anymore. Just venting, ugh.
Simple please leave him. This is abuse and you deserve better.
Thanks so much. Maybe because I’m in love so I’m sugarcoating it, but I feel like he really tries not to hurt me and just wants to be friends.
As a man, husband, and father of 2 girls, I wouldn’t want this for my kids. You are giving your love to show the boy how much he means to you but he doesn’t she it this way.
Whoever you are, you are worth more and deserve to be treated equally in a relationship. You’ll find someone that will show you the respect and love you deserve. Please don’t lower yourself for someone else. Boys are dicks. I know. I was one.
Thank you so much, hopefully he’ll act better soon. If not, I’ll leave for sure.
I really hope it gets better!
Just in case it does not, please don’t fall for the sunk cost fallacy.
Also try to not fall victim to a “comfortably hurtfull relationship”. Yes after the breakup the pain will get worse for a while. But it’ll surely subside and once the pain is numb enough and you’re not constantly hurting (mentally or emotionally) by being in a negative relationship anymore you’ll start to feel better each day :)
Wish you the best, we all deserve love by default <3
Reading some accounts of domestic abuse victims might out some things in perspective. You’re worth more than this.