I’m not really into trans people, so I only date cis men. Not trans men, not nonbinary people, and not women of any kind. However, my former boyfriend is now my girlfriend, and IDK how to tell her I don’t like women without her taking it the wrong way.
I wrote:
Hey, L,
I know you’re probably asleep, but I kind of needed to talk about something. I want you to know that I fully support you coming out as trans. I think it’s good that you’re finally your true self. However, I wanted to say that I’m straight. I’m, unfortunately, not that into women, which you are. I’m sorry, it’s just my preference. Know, please, that we can still be friends and I can support your true womanly self along the way, but I’m not interested in women and I can’t keep dating someone and lying about how I feel.
I hope you understand, E 🙂
I might be late to the party here, but I just wanted to chime in that my former husband and I went through this. He (now she) came out as MtF. I am not straight (bi), but I married them in part because I was attracted to their masculinity, which was now going away. I no longer found myself physically attracted to them. We went to marriage counseling, but ultimately decided to divorce. It was very hard, but it was ultimately for the best, for both of us. We remain friends and talk almost every day and it’s been 7 years since the divorce.
If you truly love someone, you set them free.