I’m not really into trans people, so I only date cis men. Not trans men, not nonbinary people, and not women of any kind. However, my former boyfriend is now my girlfriend, and IDK how to tell her I don’t like women without her taking it the wrong way.

I wrote:

Hey, L,

I know you’re probably asleep, but I kind of needed to talk about something. I want you to know that I fully support you coming out as trans. I think it’s good that you’re finally your true self. However, I wanted to say that I’m straight. I’m, unfortunately, not that into women, which you are. I’m sorry, it’s just my preference. Know, please, that we can still be friends and I can support your true womanly self along the way, but I’m not interested in women and I can’t keep dating someone and lying about how I feel.

I hope you understand, E 🙂

  • Pronell@lemmy.worldEnglish
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    2 days ago

    Agreed, if you don’t see a way forward with the relationship, you should be honest.

    If you’re living together, please consider giving them some time to figure things out, if that’s feasible for you.

    • hovercat@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
      2·
      2 days ago

      If you’re living together, please consider giving them some time to figure things out, if that’s feasible for you.

      I cannot stress this enough. Your partner is going through a lot right now and they need support. It might be difficult to deal with seeing them transition, but it’s paramount that they have at least some stability in their lives during this time.

      I say this from personal experience as I came out to my wife, and she moved out the next day. It was absolutely devastating, and even with the incredible amount of support and found family I have, it’s impossible to convey the sheer amount of damage that decision has caused emotionally.

      Your partner will understand your preferences, as hard as it may be for her, but she will not be able to understand abandonment.