I once posted in this community about an incident with the HVAC repair guy that nearly upended our relationship. (TW b/c there is a description of self harm) We stuck it out since then. Went to couples therapy, etc. It helped for a while, but at some point it ran its course.
Today, we’re worse off than we were before therapy. I’m so exhausted. I feel tense and like I have to walk on eggshells around her. I really thought she was the one, and now I just don’t know what to think anymore.
How do you know when it’s time for things to end? I’m worried it’ll be a terrible mistake to end things, but at the same time, it might be for the best.
I know. Not as bad as you had, but I have been in a toxic relationship before and it’s like being boiled alive slowly. You don’t get it at first and it takes a long time to register somethings wrong.
I don’t want to waste your time with platitudes like “time will heal your wounds” or some shit. But if you want to hear my advice: Hit the gym, play that video game you couldn’t the last few years, cook some extravagant stuff and go on a long trip in a foreign country. Preferably with only a backpack, away from big cities. Its gonna be expensive, but hey: you have already proven that you deserve better 😉