Laid back or not, you decide. Here is some information for your consideration about lemmy.ml admins:

https://kbin.social/m/lemmyworld@lemmy.world/t/47012/-/comment/196579
Read right here if you don’t bother to click the link and see the “flimsy evidence”.

Here is one of the Lemmy devs denying that the Uyghur genocide in China is happening:

https://old.reddit.com/r/MapPorn/comments/xq49ct/deleted_by_user/iq954mu/

“The Uyghur genocide is as real as white genocide.”

Here they are again denying it:

https://old.reddit.com/r/MapPorn/comments/xq49ct/deleted_by_user/iq951cv/

“The holocaust was a genocide that actually happened, with all the evidence that goes along with it. There is no Uyghur genocide.”

“Do you believe in anything as soon as the word “genocide” gets attached to it? What about “white genocide”? Are you a white genocide denier?”

And just so nobody can deny that parentis_shotgun is a Lemmy dev: -

“I’m one of the devs of Lemmy”

https://i.imgur.com/5kp9BP0.png

Direct links to the posts will not work but still exist on the user’s profile page: https://old.reddit.com/user/parentis_shotgun/ - hold PgDn until comments stop loading then Control+F. In fact feel free to peruse their history in general - it’s quite interesting.

One of my favorite posts is their defense of the government of North Korea in /r/AskTankies: https://old.reddit.com/r/asktankies/comments/tb1836/okay_but_dprk_seriously/i04d1wu/

Now ask yourself why would someone who is not a Red Fascist Tankie piece of shit be answering questions on behalf of Tankies in /r/AskTankies while defending a totalitarian regime? Is it… perhaps because they’re in support of such a regime because they are in fact a Tankie piece of shit?

Have you considered the excellent lemmynsfw.com instance?

Lemmy.world is run by the host of mastodon.world. They moderate well, run multiple services, and are clear and transparent.

Lemmy.ml has the issue with the admins being sorta tankies and deem anything against the Chinese government as “sinophobic”

lemmy.world is chiller but lemmy.ml is more permanent

nobody knows, we’re barely started. .ml is the “official” one run by the devs. .world is run by a pro admin, has financial transparency, and currently makes more in donations than what it costs to run (about 500$/mo). Some criticism of .world is that it has open registrations, which could mean more spam, and thus more chance of being defederated

There’s nothing wrong with signing up for a smaller or private instance. A small instance is likely to federate well and have small scale politics, good server uptime. You could pick one that’s close to your physical location for good latency