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Nothing makes me feel more valid as a woman than seeing how men live.

And they’re not all filthy, but the joke that they’re happy in an empty room with nothing but a bed and a desk really seems to be true.

I agree, they definitely aren’t the same thing. AGAB is just what the doctor decided when you were born. Sex is much more complex than that, it’s a collection of characteristics, some of which can change over time.

People focusing too much on AGAB is something that bothers me too, but I don’t mind the terms themselves too much in situations where AGAB is actually relevant. Which isn’t that often. And I also like to use phrases like “people who went through male puberty” in cases where that more accurately describes what I mean.

I like transfem/transmasc because they’re more general terms and include more than just binary trans people. To me “transfem” is essentially a superset of “trans woman” and as a trans woman myself I usually don’t mind it being used for me. I am transfem, but I agree that it’s inappropriate to use that word in a context where you can just use “woman” instead. It’s similar for “trans woman”, if the “trans” part isn’t relevant, just say “woman”.

Same! But I’d rather not disclose to my (potential or current) employer that I’m neurodivergent 😅

I’ve spent so much money on nail polish since I started transitioning. It’s more of a macro transaction really.

Is there evidence that that’s actually what happens and not just e.g. spontaneous remission? But even if it’s true, if a drug works as well as placebo then we usually conclude that it doesn’t work.

Also, people who know that someone else is praying for them actually have worse outcomes according to one of the most comprehensive studies ever done on this.

I definitely relate to that too! I’ve always known that trans people exist but it seemed so scary and I thought I’d be better off just living as a guy than trying to be what I thought wasn’t a “real” woman. But once I saw what HRT can do I was immediately like “yeah, I need that”. And seeing other trans people just being normal and happy also gave me a lot of hope.

Had I known back then what I know now I think I would’ve started transitioning like 15+ years ago as a teenager.

It’s easier said than done but I’ll try! I’m generally struggling with imposter syndrome, in other areas too. Being very uncomfortable pretending to be a guy for most of my life as well as dealing with ADHD issues has really destroyed any confidence I might have had. But I’m working on it!

Thank you! It was scary at first but totally worth it. I feel like a real person now, before I was just kind of existing. For a long time I didn’t even realize how uncomfortable I was, I just thought it was normal.

I like that perspective! Intuitively it doesn’t feel like I could inspire anyone but seeing others has definitely helped me so I think you’re onto something.

I really appreciate how welcoming this community is! I’ve only properly started presenting femme a few months ago even though I’ve been on hormones for over a year and I still have massive imposter syndrome when I call myself a woman (even though I know I shouldn’t).

Christmas has gone too far! I will defend Halloween with my life!

The peregrine falcon. Because it’s the fastest animal (that we know of)!

I share the frustration but I think it’s still better to keep saying it rather than just being silent.

I started listening to Chappell Roan a few months into my transition and her song Pink Pony Club really spoke to me because it reminds me of my own journey of finding and accepting myself. It’s so queer, happy and liberating and occasionally it still makes me cry when I sing along.

I feel similarly about Green Day’s American Idiot, not just the song but the entire album. I didn’t even listen to it that much around that time but it still takes me back and I’ve come to appreciate it more and more over the years, it’s such a good album.

Yeah I don’t know what’s up with that, but I’m not the only with this issue and funnily enough running the game with Proton fixes it.

I’ve been gaming on Linux on both Deck and Desktop for a while now and I like it, but I also have to admit that it’s not without issues. Thanks to Steam and Proton, most games really do “just work”, but some, especially non-Steam games or related tools like launchers, plugin/mod managers can cause issues and may need more effort to get running, which can be difficult for people with little Linux experience. I also recognise that not everyone wants to have to deal with that and I think that’s fair. And I get the impression that many Linux gamers underestimate their own skills and how much the average non-tech person would have to learn to be able to have a similarly good experience.

Updates can also just break games. I’s happened to me with Trackmania when the stupid Ubisoft launcher suddenly wouldn’t work anymore, or Blizzard games like World of Warcraft and Starcraft 2, which started having graphical issues. Slay the Spire, after a patch, always launched on the wrong screen and refused to let me move it to the primary one.

Disclaimer: I’m on a non-gaming focused, but popular distro (Fedora).

It would probably be something crazy like “Sarah” or “Jim”.

It’s absolutely not the same thing. I used to play a lot as a kid (still do) and I have no problem with today’s kids doing the same. But I want them to be able to enjoy games without constantly being manipulated into spending as much money as possible.

And it’s not just about kids either, I think these predatory tactics affect adults too.

It’s not a moral panic, the problem is capitalism.