when i first learned of the ussr’s “dead hand” i always wondered why they kept it a secret for so long.

years later i learned that it’s because they weren’t psychopaths hellbent on making profit for their oligarchy. lol

You don’t have to sneak in a room to agree not to talk about it if you already agree not to talk about it. You just don’t talk about it.

Has she talked about it? If she has you may have a point. Otherwise you are running defense while being objectively wrong.