• chgxvjh [he/him, comrade/them]@hexbear.net
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      The way people talk about SA is weird as fuck in general.

      It’s simultaneously treated as an unspeakable crime that is only trumped by murder and deserves the harshest punishments but simultaneously people are ride or die defending offenders and assume victims are lying and better shut up unless they got definitive and irrefutable evidence.

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      Unfortunately I fee like there is a lot of apathy when it comes to sexual harassment. Many people have accepted that they will need to put up with it in their day-to-day life to a degree.

      My anecdote for this is being in a major city a couple years back, standing on the sidewalk outside of a restaurant we had just finished eating at. Completely minding our own business and finishing up our goodbyes when some random person walked by, kissed the top of my partners head and then kept walking. I was seeing red, physically and emotionally spinning out. My partner was in shock and disgusted. The other couple with us was pretty much just like “meh, what are ya gonna do?”…

      This wasn’t even just harassment, it was assault, and the response from our friends was so nonchalant as if this is something they see and experience all the time in the city. It was sad and disheartening to say the least and it really contextualized two things for me.

      -what we hear about is only the tip of the iceberg, harassment and straight up assault is pretty much happening nonstop all the time.

      -people are apathetic to it because of how prevalent it is.

      Both of those seem so obvious, but gaining the perspective was eye opening.

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        People definitely accept common=okay because they’re reflexive p-zombies who function entirely on thr ‘first impression’ layer of the brain with little to no interiority.

        Not a natural or inevitable state of affairs, but one both nonsense and authoritarian systems drive us towards.

        There is no genuine morality, no genuine outrage, no genuine anything. Just pure instinct.

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      It’s so much worse because it’s not a subset…it’s like the entire base of both libs and reactionaries in America. Democrats overwhelmingly ignore Bill Clinton and Joe Biden’s sexual misconduct. Every republican overlooks Trump’s (and Giuliani. And Matt Gaetz. And Hegseth. And Kennedy. And…) sexual harassment and assaults.

      We’re gonna need some kind of volcel John Brown tbh.

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        those people are praising the nazi tattoo guy still. a lot of libs are just closet socially acceptable fascists.

      • a month ago? my mom and dad were talking about the Epstein case regarding Israel and my mom said that trump had a lot of pictures with Epstein ,my dad dismissed the thing and said that trump would be super duper pro Israel regardless since he is literally a convictedremoved and someone who was impeached

        which you know kinda shocked me ,my dad isn’t a misogynist or anything but he’s a bit sexist ,so hearing him bring up trump being aremoved made me realize something

        my mom and dad are both lawyer (defense attorney’s) ,so is my uncle and grandpa ,so it does make sense for them to care about the law

        but what it made me realize is if Palestine was a self governing country with elections a guy like trump could never win because people care about the law