Holy shit, you just described what ended my first serious adult relationship, nearly to a T. The only thing missing was their admission that I had been very patient and supportive during their crisis, but they weren’t willing to be patient for mine so “you need to get cracking”.
I’m sorry you had to feel the heartache of an unappreciative friend, but it sounds like it led you to meet others as exceptional as you!
She was also my first serious relationship too. I had a year long work/travel visa for Germany and she was studying in Berlin for a year. After we had to go back to our own countries, we tried long distance only to agree to be friends instead. We had frequent long video calls over the 6 years we had known each other. We were very close while living our own lives in our own countries.
As painful as it all was, I was able to reflect deeply about the experience and come out of it knowing how better to care and protect myself. It also made me realize what traits I actually value in other people. When those people started showing up in my life, I knew exactly where to spend my social energy and it was worth every bit of it.
I’m glad your partner was able to admit their faults. That at least shows they were able to self reflect. Hopefully things are better now for everyone.
Unfortunately mental health isn’t easy, clean or simple for anyone involved.
Holy shit, you just described what ended my first serious adult relationship, nearly to a T. The only thing missing was their admission that I had been very patient and supportive during their crisis, but they weren’t willing to be patient for mine so “you need to get cracking”.
I’m sorry you had to feel the heartache of an unappreciative friend, but it sounds like it led you to meet others as exceptional as you!
She was also my first serious relationship too. I had a year long work/travel visa for Germany and she was studying in Berlin for a year. After we had to go back to our own countries, we tried long distance only to agree to be friends instead. We had frequent long video calls over the 6 years we had known each other. We were very close while living our own lives in our own countries.
As painful as it all was, I was able to reflect deeply about the experience and come out of it knowing how better to care and protect myself. It also made me realize what traits I actually value in other people. When those people started showing up in my life, I knew exactly where to spend my social energy and it was worth every bit of it.
I’m glad your partner was able to admit their faults. That at least shows they were able to self reflect. Hopefully things are better now for everyone.
Unfortunately mental health isn’t easy, clean or simple for anyone involved.